{"id":5226,"date":"2022-04-29T15:36:47","date_gmt":"2022-04-29T22:36:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/salesianbulletin.org\/?p=5226"},"modified":"2025-04-25T15:41:09","modified_gmt":"2025-04-25T22:41:09","slug":"caring-for-seniors-part-iii","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/salesianbulletin.org\/es\/2022\/04\/29\/caring-for-seniors-part-iii\/","title":{"rendered":"Caring for seniors Part III"},"content":{"rendered":"

By: Sheila Kun RN, BA, BSN, MS<\/em><\/p>\n

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Abstracted by Sheila Kun RN, BA, BSN, MS<\/em>
\nFrom The Overwhelmed Woman\u2019s Guide to \u2026 Caring for Aging Parents<\/em><\/span>
\nBy Julie-Allyson Ieron<\/em><\/p>\n

Helping the seniors feel trustworthy and valuable are not the only tools we can deplore to work with grumpy old men and women. What if no positive talk or loving action can help? That\u2019s when another savvy life principle kicks in: even if we can\u2019t change someone else\u2019s behavior, we can still change our own.<\/p>\n

Changing Ourselves<\/strong><\/p>\n

As we are going about changing our attitudes toward care receivers, consciously laying down our rights to dispute with them may be on immediate answer. That much depends on us. I remember a psychologist describing this choice years ago. He said that in every crisis we have three options: put up our dukes and fight, run the other way and flee, or lie back and ride out the wave. When we discuss becoming our seniors\u2019 advocate in medical situations, we will look into the put-up-your dukes\u2019 options \u2013 because fighting for their best interests may be lifesaving. But fight against the seniors is counter-productive.<\/p>\n

Fleeing, at least as a long-term solution, probably is not an option. So consciously choosing to go with the flow may be the most feasible choice. Having options and choices return the control to us \u2013 and that is a good thing.<\/p>\n

Turning to Prayer and Friendship<\/strong><\/p>\n

We need praying friends to help hold us accountable and offer a semblance of sanity. We can pray! Whenever we do we will experience and know a closeness with those we pray with that we did not know before \u2013 it is called prayer friendship.<\/p>\n

Another Look at the Humor<\/strong><\/p>\n

We may yet have one more choice in our arsenals. Martha Bolton writes in her book When the Going Gets Tough, The Tough Start Laughing.  <\/em>\u201dWith everything that may come our way, we can still have joy. Not a joy that denies or discounts pain, but a joy that wells up inside of us in spite of it.\u201d A story illustrating this point was a senior moving all the patio furniture into the house because she reasoned that furniture did not belong outside. The caregiver could have scolded the senior, or chosen to lay back, go with the flow, and have a good belly laugh.<\/p>\n

Your homework from the Care Ministry this week: identify a tough situation that you chose to react with humor. Did you feel better then?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Love to hear from you: kunlouis@gmail.com<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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